Martial Arts Featured Article/title> </head> <body> <div class="top"><h1>KerwinBenson.com <span>Hidden Gems of Martial Arts</span></h1></div> <div class="header"> <div class="menu"> <a href="index.html"><img border=0 width=570 height=95 class="left" alt="" src="martial_arts_books.jpg"></a> </div> </div> <div class="content_left"> <div class="date">Martial Arts -- No Threats Article</div> <div class="newsitem"> <div class="title"> No Speeches, No Threats, Just ... </div> <div class="body"> <br> I think it's my goal in life to help good people get an edge. I want to help martial artists achieve their specific goals, thereby giving them an advantage.<p></p> If what I write helps to keep you safe, then I can go to bed at night thinking, "mission accomplished," or maybe, "It was a good day, today."<p></p> So, I feel obligated to tell you not to go to events like reunions looking for trouble. It wouldn't be a good idea, if I had attended the kegger with even the thought of, "Well, 'I' won't be the one start anything, but I may be the one to finish it. Hehehe."<p></p> <div align="center"> <b>Never go looking for trouble.<br> Never go with the thought of <br> "making yourself available" to trouble.</b><p></p> </div> Does this make sense?<p></p> Let me clue you into the human nature of many good people:<p></p> If you ever feel the need to go back and tell your enemies a thing or two, then you haven't shed your ego. And you aren't as successful (actualized or enlightened) as you might think.<p></p> If you were picked on in school, because you were fat ... if you were made fun of because you had big ears ... if you ever felt belittled ... if someone else caused you to feel bad, then it's normal and natural to want to make things right years later. You might want to show them that you have lost your excess weight, or how successful you are.<p></p> Don't give in.<p></p> First of all, these jerks don't count. Believe me, you have been thinking about them thousands of times more over the years than they have been thinking about you. I promise.<p></p> Secondly, revenge really isn't all that sweet. I know from experience. Attending the kegger wasn't necessary.<p></p> After all, in reality, you succeeded for you, not for them. Their image or words could have fueled some of the fire, but that's not why you stuck with your goal over the years.<p></p> If you ever find the need to make a speech to someone or threaten them, then I believe your ego is getting in the way. Use your 'feeling' of the need to say something as a cue that emotion is taking over.<p></p> If you have to defend yourself, not fighting for revenge, but seriously have to defend yourself, then you don't need a speech either.<p></p> In fact, don't respond verbally to your attacker's taunts. They could be distractions.<p></p> Which brings us to our next topic ...<p></p> <div class="newsitem"> <div class="title"> Unless ... </div> Speeches and threats warn that our emotions may be getting the better of us. Talking also takes effort in a fight. And it could be used against you as a distraction.<p></p> I advise against giving a speech or threatening, unless ...<p></p> you can use it to your advantage.<p></p> Practice hitting mid-sentence. No change of inflection. No warning.<p></p> You are just about to start telling him "what's what" when ... BAM! You have hit him, already.<p></p> Is this fair? No. Is it legal? Well, you were the one to hit first, so ... But is it an effective tactic?<p></p> Sure. Just think about it. You are facing an aggressor. You tell him that ... BAM! 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